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Can you feel safe with money and in love before everything in your life is perfectly figured out?
In this episode, you sit in on a real Rapid Transformation Session with my guest Tasha, who came in carrying a fear that the moment she relaxes, she will be left to handle it all alone. With money. In her relationships. In the world.
Together we move through brain balancing, a vagus nerve breath, and a grounding point on the bottom of the foot. Then we build vivid visions of a life where she is supported, resourced, and free to rest, travel, and trust herself.
This episode is something to experience. Find a quiet spot, press play, and do the processes with us. Let your body remember what safe feels like.
The Real Fear Underneath It All
When I asked Tasha what she wanted to work on, the answer came quickly. She wanted to feel more supported and safe with money, with men, in her home, and in the world when she travels.
She was getting ready to travel in a few weeks, so the timing felt very alive. And when she went deeper, what she named was something so many people carry. The fear of being abandoned. Whether that shows up as financial abandonment or being left somewhere or being the one holding everything together because nobody else is going to do it.
If you have ever felt like relaxing might cost you everything, this one is going to land.
Brain Balancing and the 4×4 Whole Brain Breath
We started the session with brain balancing, a cross-body technique that activates both the right and left hemispheres of the brain. If you are stuck in emotion, it pulls in logic. If you are over-mentalizing and going down the rabbit hole, it pulls in creativity. The result is access to a new possibility that you could not see before.
You can do this standing, seated, or lying down. Arms open like goalposts. Lift one thigh, tap it with the opposite hand. Open your arms. Lift the other thigh, tap with the opposite hand. Get into a rhythm. Opposite hand, opposite thigh. Eyes up and to the right for a count of twenty. Then eyes up and to the left for twenty more.
Then we moved into what I call the 4×4 Whole Brain Breath. The right hemisphere controls the left side of your body and the left hemisphere controls the right. When we do cross-body positions with a specific breathing pattern, we activate both hemispheres and calm the nervous system through the vagus nerve. It tells your whole system: everything is okay.
This is something you can pause and do right now if you are listening along.
Kidney 1: The Point That Brings You Back to Earth
For this session, I selected an acu-emotional resonance point on the bottom of the foot. It is Kidney 1, also called Bubbling Spring, because it is where vital energy rises up from the earth to provide a foundation of grounding and stability.
You find it by locating the ball of the foot, then going just below that ridge, centered between left and right, about a third of the way down from the toes toward the heel. You apply inward pressure with your thumb, like pressing a button, and make slow counterclockwise circles. Medium pressure. Slow enough to feel nurturing.
This point releases fear, anxiety, uncertainty, insecurity, and confusion. It draws the energy downward, out of the mind, through the body, and back to the feet. It helps reclaim the body as a safe place to land.
When I asked Tasha the question that goes with this point, “What is causing you to feel unsafe or ungrounded right now?” the answer came immediately. Money. The uncertainty around it. And underneath that, the deeper truth: with enough money, she would not need support from anyone else. She could take care of herself completely.
So the fear of not having enough money and the fear of not being supported in relationships were the same fear wearing two different outfits.
Building the Vision of What Safe Actually Looks Like
After the grounding work, we created what I call mind movies. These are short, vivid visions of your life when the thing you want is already happening. You are not hoping for it. You are watching yourself live it.
Tasha saw three visions.
In the first, she was in her kitchen with a companion. They were laughing. Communication was easy. Emotions flowed in and out with no blockages. Their shoulders were relaxed. They were playful. And underneath all of it was this knowing that whatever life throws at them, there is a plan, a strategy, mutual support. Both of them doing their calling in the world and enhancing one another through companionship.
In the second, she was lying on a soft, beautiful couch. Resting her bones. Not because she was exhausted but because her life was spacious enough to honor her energy and her body. She said it perfectly: “I could be right here on this couch or on the beach in the Caribbean. My body feels the same.”
In the third, she was at the airport. Hair done. Nails done. Good luggage. Walking into TSA pre-check like a frequent traveler. Heading somewhere exciting for work that is also pleasure, connecting with a bigger system, feeling put together and fully attended to.
When I asked what people would say about her when all of this is her reality, she said: “She is so confident and yet humble. Grounded. Calm yet dynamic. A powerhouse. Everyone feels lighter around her.”
And when I asked how all of that would feel in one word, she said: expansive.
What Her Higher Self Already Knew
We closed with a higher self inner inquiry. I guided Tasha into a heightened state and asked the question: in order to experience this security, this support, this financial abundance, what do you need to see or hear or know or understand?
What came through was clear.
She is a precious resource. Owning her full power means staying in her own lane, her own direction, her own mission. Being less adaptable to others. It does not matter if others like her or approve of her as long as she likes herself and approves of herself and stays focused on what she knows her mission to be.
She has a tremendous amount of love to give. That is something rare and beautiful. And it is also something she needs to protect, because that quality can be targeted by people looking to tap her resources.
The message was about discernment. Staying grounded in reality rather than projecting potential onto people. Recognizing the difference between being in service to a client and being in her own life where her first responsibility is to herself.
Owning Your Power Without Apologizing for It
One of the most powerful moments in this session was when Tasha named what has held her back from fully stepping into her power. She did not want to be seen as intimidating. She did not want to come across as bossy or dominating.
But the truth is she has a lot of power and intensity inside of her. Playing small or smoothing that out does not make it go away. It just pushes it sideways.
She had been receiving the same message from multiple directions lately: if you do not own your power, somebody else is going to try to own you.
I shared an experience from my time training in Budokan, a martial arts infused yoga method, where I spent time with a room full of black belts. What struck me about them was how relaxed they were. No ego leading the way. No need to prove anything. They knew how to handle themselves, so they could just be calm. Present. At ease. Ready if needed, but never performing readiness.
That is the energy. Quiet confidence. Quiet power. Knowing who you are and what you allow in without needing to announce it.
The Action Step That Ties It All Together
Tasha’s biggest takeaway was about her morning routine. She had moved away from regular meditation and self-hypnosis, the practices that keep her grounded and connected to her vision. Life had gotten busy. A new puppy had scrambled her mornings. The quiet practices slipped.
Her action step was simple and real. Create a minimum morning routine that nourishes her no matter where she is, no matter what is happening. And create a more spacious evening practice for the deeper work. Fill herself up first so she can show up for everything else from a full cup.
Sometimes the most powerful shift is not a breakthrough. It is returning to the practices you already know work and giving yourself permission to prioritize them again.
What Would Shift If You Trusted You Will Be Okay?
Here is what I want you to sit with after listening to this episode.
What would shift in your life if you finally trusted that you are going to be okay? If you trusted that support is coming. That money is flowing. That the right people will find you when you stop performing and start being who you actually are.
You do not have to have it all figured out first. You just have to decide that you are worth the life you keep imagining.
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